RE:Single Mens Army

whatever u say "not certified people" u blame the certified fakes and i blame the mentality against the single males and all fakes. your nudists but your not intended to get certified as the site request for nudists trustworthy but you came here to teach a class about others.

Everyone has to face all the problems its the way world works. if u are capable enough to find the nudists and perverts u dont need to blame everyone.

and after all its ur decision to get certified or not here after i dont care the people who are not certified.

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There was a thread started a couple of days ago by an 18yo girl with a certified profile.It was revealed to be completely false.If you want to, you can fake it.

Was that the one who is supposedly a twin and admittingly said it's more about exposing herself?

I was more amazed at the replies and that anyone would be fooled by the post.

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We have over 400 friends requests pending. They are almost exclusively from single men who either want to have sex with me, Lorna or both of us. We make it clear on our profile that we are genuine naturists and not swingers but they must not have read that.If you are a naturist couple on the internet this is what you have to put up with.

Ugh how frustrating that must be!!!!!

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There was a thread started a couple of days ago by an 18yo girl with a certified profile.It was revealed to be completely false.If you want to, you can fake it.

And there is the crux of the problem so many people here certified and not are not what/who they suggest they are and there is very little that an individual member can do about it

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Livelikeborn, you are pre-judging no certified people the same way that you have noted single men are.

To use steveleonas example of 10 couples in a restaurant. You said you would come in and get your own table. The analogy is that you start sending messages to the tables saying Hi, my name is Dick. You wouldnt/shouldnt do that. Same here, sending an unsolicited message even if it is just introducing yourself, is not a good idea in most cases.

I have learned that the best way to make friends and show your intentions here is by posting and commenting in the forum or groups. You can tell more about a person by the groups they join and the comments they make. You can have meaningful conversation with people just like you have in this thread.

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. . . sending an unsolicited message even if it is just introducing yourself, is not a good idea in most cases.

To be fair - if you don't say hello, how are you going to ever meet them? Why would sending an unsolicited message be bad? Hell's bells I walk up to random people in public and say "hi" all the time, and have randomly messaged folks I've seen online who looked interesting, too. Some of the best people I know (and the best one I know) I've only met because I walked (or typed) up and said "hello". If you're in a public place, you can expect to deal with the public. If you don't want to risk encountering a stranger - you should probably stay away from other people.

They might tell you to get lost, but, how else are you going to know? Wait for them to randomly say hi to you? Well, now, that's a bit of a silly double standard, isn't it?

The tables at a restaurant thing is a bad analogy to use by the way, given how restaurant visits are generally handled, and there being an expectation of intimacy in most major cultures. This place isn't a bunch of restaurant booths (unless you're going the whole private profile road), it's more like a party where everyone's hanging around and mingling. Or at least, it probably should be - lest it fall victim to a bunch of silly cliques and self proclaimed elitists - as so very many places, sadly, do.

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If you are in the chat room or posting on the forums you are inviting discussion. Thats appropriate.

The restaurant analogy is just to point out where its inappropriate.

If single male naturists are unsure where and when its appropriate to look to start a conversation simply ask yourself. Would I do it if we were all dressed.

As for sending unsolicited personal messages, you are never going to stop that, but as a rule Ill pay attention to a message if its from a name I recognise from these posts. Strangers will more often than not, remain strangers.

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I have learned that the best way to make friends and show your intentions here is by posting and commenting in the forum or groups. You can tell more about a person by the groups they join and the comments they make. You can have meaningful conversation with people just like you have in this thread.
I get many friend requests, most I just delete. I keep my friend list short.
Most don't even send a comment when they do. Makes me wonder why they want to be my friend, so I check them out. If their whole feed is nothing but friend requests I just delete them. I have no desire to be part if someone's friend harem"
A sincere friend request will usually say " I liked your post" or "Liked your profile" at least! They may get a second look. Sincere conversation goes a long way toward friending someone or building a friendship.

The real truth is, the world is full of people with different intentions. This is social media. You are going to see all kinds.
So what if you do? Just ignore what doesn't appeal to you and move on. I've only blocked one person here, I was threatened! They're gone now. No place for that. There are many I don't agree with here but they are allowed to be here just like me. There is no reason to bash anyone for being who they are just because they are not like you.

I really despise people who can't accept others who are different than them, regardless of what they are here for. Just let them be if they're not harming you.

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i would also encourage checking discussions and posting where it interests you first. If you then find people who you would like to know better, send them a friend request and note something they posted that interests you.
When I get a friend request that doesn't incluled comments, I don't delete it immediately, I do check their profile.
If they have more friends than posts, a private profile or mostly sexual posts, I delete it.
If the initial request has sexual overtones, I just delete it immediately.

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We have over 400 friends requests pending. They are almost exclusively from single men who either want to have sex with me, Lorna or both of us. We make it clear on our profile that we are genuine naturists and not swingers but they must not have read that.If you are a naturist couple on the internet this is what you have to put up with.

This site is dying due to threads like this, polarizing the world into two camps of orthodox nudists and perverts. How can you be so vain to think that 400 people want to have sex with you? And then claim victimhood as a result? People are sexual in nature, we're born that way and it's a gift. And it's our blessing to own and feel our sexuality, though not a right to share it with others without their permission and in public. We need discretion, not denial or repression.

I grew up in an ethnic evangelical enclave that also broke the world into the "us" and "sinful others," and claimed victimhood for fighting the good fight by bashing others focused on their favorite sins. I was shamed and abused for asking questions and holding people accountable for their lies and hypcorisy without even rebelling in my behavior. Gay men, whom I was warned about, turned out to be better role models for me of living with authenticity and integrity, and I'm referring to their lifestyle excluding sexuality. Naturism taught me to shed my repression and shame, and I am a better person as a result. Younger people are also a saving grace in being honest, speaking openly and being accepting of themselves and others, while maintaining healthy boundaries. They mainly disregard and distance themselves from toxic and dysfunctional people and places and I don't blame them for disassociating from discussions like this one. They run to the hils and don't want anything to do with TN.

TN is becoming an increasingly toxic and polarized forum and is dying as a result. This is sad because we need each other more than we need to suffer from undesirables unlike us. That is unfortunately also a sign of our times. Let us put aside these hateful or spiteful attitudes to listen and be compassionate, respectful and healing instead.

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